And the Spirit and the Bride say, "Come". And let him that hears say, "Come". And let him that is thirsty "Come". And whoever will, let him take the water of life freely!                                                                    Rev. 22:17

 

 

 

  

 ~ THE FAMILY ~ 

 DUTIES OF THE HUSBAND: 

The word husband means to care for, to nurture, to meet her needs sacrificially. Husbands are to be the head of the house, and providers. They are also to love their wives as Christ loved the church.

  • HUSBAND MUST PROVIDE FOR HIS FAMILY: 1 TIMOTHY 5:8 Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
  • HIS BODY BELONGS TO HIS WIFE: 1 CORINTHIAN 7:4 The husband does not have authority over his own body, but yields it to his wife. (Sexually Speaking - however, he can still decline sexual relations, if he so chooses, but he would be in disobedience unless he is fasting, and wife is in common agreement)
  • HE IS THE DECISION MAKER: EPHISIANS 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
  • HE IS AUTHORITY: EPHESIANS 5:22 22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 
  • HE NEEDS TO INSTRUCT THEIR CHILDREN IN THE THINGS OF GOD: PROVERBS 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, And even when he is old he will not depart from it.
  • HE IS THE CHILDREN'S DISCIPLINARIAN: PROVERBS 20:30 Physical punishment cleanses away evil; such discipline purifies the heart. PROVERBS 23:13-14 13 Do not withhold correction from a child, For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die.
    14 You shall beat him with a rod, And deliver his soul from hell.
  • HE IS THE PROTECTOR & BE WILLING TO DIE FOR HIS WIFE: EPHESIANS 5:25 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,
  • HE SHOULD LOVE HER AS CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH: EPHESIANS 5:28 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 
  • HE SHOULD HONOR HIS WIFE & TREAT THE WOMAN AS A WEAKER VESSEL: 1 PETER 3:7  Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weakervessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.
  • HE SHOULD BE ONE WITH HER: EPHESIANS 5:31 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.
  • HE SHOULD NOT DEFILE THE BED: HEBREWS 13:4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. LEVITICUS 18:23-25 'Also you shall not have intercourse with any animal to be defiled with it, nor shall any woman stand before an animal to mate with it; it is a perversion. 24 'Do not defile yourselves by any of these things; for by all these the nations which I am casting out before you have become defiled. 25 'For the land has become defiled, therefore I have brought its punishment upon it, so the land has spewed out its inhabitants.…
  • HE NEEDS TO BE FAITHFUL: EXODUS 20:14 14 “You shall not commit adultery. GENESIS 34:2-3 2 And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her and lay with her, and violated her. 3 His soul was strongly attracted to Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the young woman and spoke kindly to the young woman.
  • HE NEEDS SAVE MONEY FOR HIS GRANDCHILDREN TO INHERIT: PROVERBS 13:22 A good person leaves an inheritance for their children’s children, but a sinner's wealth is stored up for the righteous.
  • HE SHOULD NEVER IRRITATE HIS CHILDREN OR PROVOKE THEM TO ANGER: EPHESIANS 6:4 Fathers do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. COLOSIANS 3:21 Fathers do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.

 

 DUTIES OF A WIFE: 

The word Wife means: Life saver, to support the husband selflessly, sacrificially and put his needs before her own. She is to submit herself to her husband and attend the needs of her family, by cooking, clothing and managing their finances. 

All of PROVERBS 31, TAKE CARE OF THE HOUSE AND:

 

  • SHE NEEDS TO COOK FOR HER FAMILY: PROVERBS 31:15 And provides food for her household, And a portion for her maidservants.
  • SHE NEEDS TO KEEP A CLEAN HOUSE: PROVERBS 31:21-22 She is not afraid of snow for her household, For all her household is clothed with scarlet. 22 She makes tapestry for herself;
  • SHE NEEDS TO BE FAITHFUL TO HER HUSBAND: PROVERBS 31:11,12,23 The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good and not evil
    All the days of her life. 23Her husband is known in the gates,
  • SHE NEED TO MANAGE THE FAMILY FINANCES: PROVERBS 31:16 She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard.
  • HER BODY BELONGS TO HER HUSBAND: 1 CORINTHIAN 7:4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. (Sexually speaking - however, she can still decline sexual intercourse with mutual agreement for reasons of fasting or health issues. Regarding appearance: I recomend she practices good hygiene and present herself attractive to her husband.)
  • SHE NEEDS TO HONOR HER HUSBAND: EPHESIANS 5:33 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
  • SHE NEEDS TO SUBMIT TO HER HUSBAND: Ephesians 5:24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 1 PETER 3:1-6 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.
  • SHE HELPS DISCIPLINE HER CHILDREN: PROVERBS 20:30 Physical punishment cleanses away evil; such discipline purifies the heart.
  • SHE LEAVES AN INHERITANCE TO HER GRANDCHILDREN: PROVERBS 13:22 A good person, leaves an inheritance for their children’s children, but a sinner's wealth is stored up for the righteous.
  • SHE NEEDS TO STAY AWAY FROM GOSSIPING: 1 TIMOTHY 5:13 Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house. And not only do they become idlers, but also busybodies who talk nonsense, saying things they ought not to.
  • SHE SHOULD INSTRUCT HER CHILDREN IN THE THINGS OF GOD: PROVERBS 20:11-12 Even children are known by the way they act,     whether their conduct is pure, and whether it is right. 12 Ears to hear and eyes to see— both are gifts from the Lord.

 

 DUTIES OF THE CHILDREN: 

Children must obey their parents always, unless parents are teaching them against the word of God. Then and only then could they disobey.

  • THEY NEED TO HONOR THEIR PARENTS: EXODUS 20:12 Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the LORD your God is giving you. (this is the only commandment with a promise.)
  • THEY NEED TO OBEY THEIR PARENTS:EPHESIANS 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. COLOSSIANS 3:20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
  • THEY NEED TO LISTEN TO THEIR PARENTS:PROVERBS 23:22 Listen to your father, who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old.
  • DO NOT BE DISOBEDIENT: DEUTERONOMY 21:18-21 If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who does not obey his father and mother and will not listen to them when they discipline him, ...the elders shall stone him to death.
  • TAKE CARE OF THEIR PARENTS IN THEIR OLD AGE, PHYSICALLY AND FINANCIALLY: 1 TIMOTHY 5:4 But if a widow has children or grandchildren, these should learn first to all to put their religion into practice by caring for their own family and so repaying their parents and grandparents, for this is pleasing to God.
  • NOT BE IN THE STREETS AT LATE HOURS OF THE NIGHT: NOT BEFRIEND MOCKERS: PROVERBS 20:1 Wine produces mockers; alcohol leads to brawls. Those led astray by drink cannot be wise.
  • THEY SHOULD NOT STEAL: PROVERBS 20:17 Stolen bread tastes sweet, but it turns to gravel in the mouth.
  • REMIND PARENTS NOT TO IRRITATE THEM: EPHESIANS 6:4 Fathers do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. COLOSIANS 3:21 Fathers do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.
  • DO NOT BEFRIEND TROUBLE MAKERS: PROVERBS 20:6-7 Many will say they are loyal friends, but who can find one who is truly reliable? 
  • THEY NEED TO PRACTICE INTEGRITY: PROVERBS 20:7 The godly walk with integrity; blessed are their children who follow them. 
  • SHOULD NOT ENGAGE IN BRAWLS, IT IS HONORABLE TO AVOID FIGHTS: PROVERBS 20:3 Avoiding a fight is a mark of honor; only fools insist on quarreling.

     DUTIES OF THE PARENTS 

    It is the responsibility of both parents to discipline and to love their children.

  • PARENTS NEED TO GUIDE THEM ON A PATH TO RIGHTEOUSNESS: PROVERBS 22:6 Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it. 

  • SHOULD NOT IRRITATE THEIR CHILDREN:EPHESIANS 6:4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. 

  • SHARE WITH THEIR CHILDREN THE LESSONS LEARNED IN THEIR LIFETIME: DEUTORONOMY 4:9 Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them. 

  • TEACH THEIR CHILDREN THE PATH TO A RIGHTEOUS LIFESTYLE: DEUTORONOMY 11:19 Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.